Comments on: Searching for a place called home

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Tue, 13 Oct 2009 12:02:27 +0000

[…] been pretty open about my struggles with homesickness. Last week, we had a change of plans that will bring us home sooner than we […]

By: Lori

Lori — Sun, 23 Aug 2009 22:16:50 +0000

Have you thought about checking out church? We moved to Columbus, OH, a while back, and that’s where we found our “family.” My parents have moved here since then, and it’s wonderful having them here. It was great, though, when they weren’t here, to have people to hang out with and to share support with. We go to a large church, and for awhile we felt we weren’t connecting. I told my husband, though, that we hadn’t made the effort to get involved. We then made the effort to join an Adult Bible Fellowship, and we made many great friends. There were small groups to get involved with, and we joined different ones, over the years, where we got together once or twice a month for dinner, Bible Study, or just something fun to do. I also joined the choir, and later the orchestra, and that was tons of fun.

Just a thought. I have found so many friends and so much to do through our church–everyone should at least give it a try. God might have something special waiting for you there!!

By: kasey

kasey — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 18:00:58 +0000

I moved to New York City after graduating from IU 4.5 years ago. A month after I moved, my college boyfriend who was in New Jersey at the time, broke up with me and I knew no one. It was pure stubbornness that kept me from packing up and moving home. I worked in an office with only two other people, so I had to do something. I went to the church down the street from my apartment, it was small and there was one couple my age. We became friends and part of a church plant. I now have 20 couples in my support group. It took a good two years before I felt like I had a good group of friends. Also, I went to networking and industry events, a lot of them, and some of those contacts became friends. I was invited to a birthday party by a friend from a new job, and that is where I met my husband. (we got married about a year after we met, married a year now) But as I’ve changed jobs I’ve continued to go to the work get togethers and birthday parties, we now have a group of individual and couple friends that we meet for coffee or have over for dinner. I know that going out and spending money isn’t really frugal, but I usually buy one drink and then get water after that. I’m happy for the friends I do have, but it was really two – three years before I really felt I had a support system. There are days I still feel isolated, like I will never have that best friend, like the one back home. It’s tough. So my advice is just getting out to meet people. Oh, one more thing, I realize I was doing most of my meeting people as a single adult, which does make a difference, but about once a month my husband and I try to have a girls night / guys night, which helps build those relationships with friends we maybe don’t know as well. End of the world’s longest comment.

By: Sara

Sara — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 06:09:33 +0000

The great thing about family and real friends is that you can slide back in where you left off.
Think of all the wonder and achievement that it takes to relocate yourself and try to make friendships.
I feel sad that you are homesick… and I am all the way over here in Sydney, Australia. A different world away.
Hugs * a billion,
Sara

By: Jill

Jill — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 03:31:10 +0000

I can easily relate, having lived away from family for nearly the last 5 years. We are in the process of moving back now. Even when you do have a great group of friends and supports, it can still be hard...esp. coming back to a little niece or nephew who doesn't remember you. I'm afraid now, since we've been gone so long, that we'll have a hard time finding/making/re-establishing friendships. Hang in there though--when we first got married, I thought this time would NEVER come! You can get through it! :) .-= Jill´s last blog ..Keep the Change... =-.

By: Mrs. Money

Mrs. Money — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 00:18:47 +0000

I could have written this myself… we spent last week with my family and I desperately want to move back now. Unfortunately, they live in MI and we all know how the economy is there. Also, my hubby is a chef and I don’t think he could get a job there easily. Plus we’d have to sell our house. Ugh. :(

By: Melanie

Melanie — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 16:54:15 +0000

where in NC are you? We live near Charlotte; I'm a native...been here all my life except for some grad school time done in Waco, TX. I can sympathize about feeling "in limbo." My husband is working on his PhD and I'm working on my M.A. and working full time in another field. Sometimes you feel like you're a step behind everyone else because so much is in the air and you're always "working toward" something that you feel you'll never complete;). .-= Melanie´s last blog ..All Quiet on the Weaver Front.... =-.

By: Kacie

Kacie — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 16:01:45 +0000

OK I started out typing a big comment, then I thought I'd rather email ya. So that's coming in a bit. But first, big hugs! .-= Kacie´s last blog ..On not making extra mortgage payments =-.

By: The Non-Student

The Non-Student — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 15:30:54 +0000

Funny, I went to college in NC, and it's definitely a place I feel I could call home again! But it's definitely not for everyone. My partner and I just moved to DC, and while I love it here and I do have friends, I don't have a group of friends, and that can be hard. Also, being the sole support for another person can be stressful. I hope you can make it home soon. .-= The Non-Student´s last blog ..TV Will Bring Us Together =-.